Over the Rainbow...

Few things can make us feel crazier than

expecting something from someone who

has nothing to give


Few things can frustrate us more than

trying to make a person someone

he or she isn't;

we feel crazy when we try to pretend

that person is someone he or she is not


We may have spent years negotiating

with reality concerning particular people

from our past and our present



We may have spent years trying to get

someone to love us in a certain way,

when that person cannot or will not

It is time to let it go

It is time to let him or her go


That doesn't mean we can't love

that person anymore It means that

we will feel the immense relief that

comes when we stop denying reality

and begin accepting


We release that person to be who

he or she actually is


We stop trying to make that person

be someone he or she is not


We deal with our feelings and

walk away from the destructive system


We learn to love and care differently

in a way that takes reality into account


We enter into a relationship with that

person on new terms -

taking our needs and ourselves into account


If a person is addicted to

alcohol, other drugs, misery, or

other people, we let go of his or her addiction;

we take our hands off it


We give his or her life back

And we, in the process, are given our life

and freedom in return


We stop letting what we are not getting

from that person control us



We take responsibility for our life


We go ahead with the process of loving


and taking care of ourselves



We decide how we want to interact with

that person, taking reality and our own

best interests into account


We get angry, we feel hurt, but we land

in a place of forgiveness


We set him or her free, and we become

set free from bondage



Today, I will work at detaching in love

from troublesome people in my life

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I will strive to accept reality in my relationships

I will give myself permission to take care

of myself in my relationships, with emotional,

physical, mental, and spiritual freedom

for both people as my goal